Happy Marvelous Monday friends!
Did everyone have a relaxing and refreshing weekend? We sure did!
Mine started off by getting a much needed hair cut.
I always feel like a different person after a hair cut, because she always straightens my hair afterward.
It’s my alter ego… 😉
I’m on a bit of a soapbox today….
Y’all know those “What to Expect” books?
I’m sick of them. Yep… I said it.
After a very fussy day with Baby D, I wanted to read up about other 3month old baby routines and what is supposed to be going on at 3 months of age.
I left feeling more discouraged and frustrated than before I read anything. Those books and websites are more of an ideal than real life.
Then, I was reminded why I don’t read those in the first place.
First of all, talking to mom’s or other people that you know is a much better source. Plus, they’ve been there and can offer real life experience.
Second, you (at least I do) end up comparing your child or yourself to the text book cases. Neither of which is healthy.
Plus, it makes you feel like you are a bad parent/ person or that there is something wrong.
Baby D isn’t sleeping through the night yet.*** He is 14 weeks old today. Pretty much all of the books and sites say that he should be sleeping 8-10 hours at a time right now.
I felt like such a failure as a parent. Why wasn’t my baby doing ‘what he is supposed to’?
After talking to my mom friends about it, turns out Baby D isn’t alone. In fact, it is very common for babies to still not be sleeping through the night.
That made me feel so much better!
From now on, I’m going to learn as I go, consult other mom’s, and take the advice and guidance from our amazing pediatrician. No baby is a text book case.. and I don’t want to project that onto Baby D.
I mean goodness… what did my grandmother’s do when they didn’t have a book to consult about their 2 month old’s sleeping patterns!?!
When I don’t know the small things to expect, it makes it more of an adventure and more exciting!
He is perfect… sleep deprived as I am… I wouldn’t have him any other way!
This isn’t only for parenting… this can be explained and applied in so many different life situations. Whether it is on relationships, life expectations, or just life in general. None of us will share the same journey’s through life. However, we call can stand to let perfection and living by a text book go and just live!
I hope you all have a Marvelous Monday friends!
Does reading ‘What to Expect’ books leave you frustrated or feeling like something is wrong?
How was your weekend/ what is Marvelous in Your Monday?
What should we name my alter ego??
***last night Baby D slept 6 hours straight! WOO-HOO!!