Reflections on My First Mother’s Day

by Brittany on May 12, 2014

Wow…it seems so surreal to celebrate my first Mother’s Day!

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Mother’s Day was my least favorite day of the year for several years.  I felt forgotten.

This year, Luvy and Baby D made it super special.

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We unplugged all weekend and just relaxed.

Made a special breakfast on Saturday.

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Baby D got me a necklace with his birthstone on it.

Luvy got me roses and a “Child of My Heart” WillowTree figure.

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I love it because it was made especially for multicultural families!  How precious is that?

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My dad even came up this weekend to see us!

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I die over this pic of Baby D in my dad’s hat!

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Luvy instructed Baby D early that he may never forget a Mother’s Day.  I’m thinking that Baby D better take notes from his daddy on gift giving.  If he does, he will make one young lady a very nice husband one day…. but I don’t want to think about that!  ;)

For years, Mother’s Day was so painful.  There is no pain like wanting a child, yet being infertile.  You feel forgotten and it seems like everyone around you keeps having babies.

This was not lost on me this year.  Even though I have Baby D now, I am still very aware of the pain of infertility.

I think that mother’s deserve to be honored and celebrated…don’t get me wrong.  However, I don’t think we should alienate those women who do not or can not have children.

You never know who is suffering in silence like I did for so many years.

Just know that you are never forgotten.  God has a plan for your life.  Although I didn’t enjoy my infertility journey.  I know that God’s plan for my infertility was so that we could adopt Baby D.

For that, I’m thankful!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you mom’s and future mom’s out there! 

I hope you all have a Marvelous Monday friends!

Thanks to the gorgeous Katie for the link up!

What is Marvelous in Your Monday?

What did you do this weekend?

How did you celebrate Mother’s Day?

{ 34 comments… read them below or add one }

Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table May 12, 2014 at 3:18 am

I am so happy for you – your first mother’s day!!! Love you!

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Brittany May 20, 2014 at 9:24 am

Thanks friend! I love you!!

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Angela @ Happy Fit Mama May 12, 2014 at 5:30 am

I felt that pain for a few years too. It was not an easy day. So very happy for you and that you were spoiled on your very first Mothers Day!

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Brittany May 20, 2014 at 9:26 am

It’s a hard pain to live isn’t it?? I hope you felt spoiled on Mather’s Day!

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Tina Muir May 12, 2014 at 7:23 am

Awww congratulations, your smile is contagious! You look so truly happy and it is wonderful :) I celebrated from afar, as I sent my mum a movie to watch, and ordered her a cookie cake. We facetimed as she opened it, so that was nice to almost be there :) Hope you have a week that is just as special!

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Jessie May 12, 2014 at 7:36 am

You deserve to be spoiled, Brittany! Im so glad you were finally able to feel complete & no longer forgotten <3

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Brittany May 20, 2014 at 9:30 am

Thank you friend. I pray your day is SOON. XOXO

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Maureen May 12, 2014 at 8:26 am

Thank you for this post. I don’t think people realize how painful Mother’s Day can be for those without children. I am past the point of it hurting, but it still bothers me when Gary & I are out on Mother’s Day and I hear waiters/waitresses at a restaurant or checkers at a grocery store wishing every woman they come across Happy Mother’s Day. Not every female over 20 has a child. Just weird to me.
I am so glad Luvy & Baby D spoiled you…you totally deserve it! :)

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Brittany May 20, 2014 at 9:33 am

YES.. I don’t think the pain every completely goes away. I’m so glad that you are past the point of hurting every year. That is HUGE! Love you friend… and love your story.

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Purelytwins May 12, 2014 at 8:31 am

love the willow tree figure

:) happy mothers day!

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Holly @ EatGreatBEGreat May 12, 2014 at 8:47 am

I’m so, so glad that you had such a wonderful first Mother’s Day! I love the Willow Tree Figure!

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Tori May 12, 2014 at 9:07 am

The Willowtree figure is so cute! Happy that you had a marvelous mother’s day :-)

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Lindsay @ Lindsay's List May 12, 2014 at 9:20 am

so glad you had a wonderful day! many more to come!!

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Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy May 12, 2014 at 9:39 am

He’s such a cutie! I’m glad you enjoyed your first Mother’s Day!

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Sarah Kay Hoffman May 12, 2014 at 9:55 am

LOVE it! I’m so glad yours was so special, too:) Our littles would be such great friends!

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Brittany May 20, 2014 at 9:35 am

yes they would!! Hope you had a very special Mother’s Day friend! xoxo

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Hannah @ CleanEatingVeggieGirl May 12, 2014 at 10:39 am

The Willow Tree figure is so pretty and so fitting. P.S. You and Baby D have matching curly hair! It’s so cute :)

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Ashley @ My Food N Fitness Diaries May 12, 2014 at 10:56 am

Love you so much and I appreciate the awareness you are creating of infertility. I’m so glad you got to experience your first Mother’s Day – how special! Baby D is one blessed little boy!

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Jaclyn @ BumpSweat May 12, 2014 at 10:59 am

Beautiful! I love your heart, that you shine light on the fact that so many women who want to be mamas go forgotten on Mother’s day. God does have a plan for their lives, and I’m so glad you followed the path He laid out for you, to make good of your infertility problems by giving Baby D a loving family and home.

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Divya @ Eat. Teach. Blog. May 12, 2014 at 12:16 pm

<3 <3 you deserve every ounce of love! Not just on Mothers Day. Every day. Beautiful family :)

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Lindsey May 12, 2014 at 2:01 pm

What a great post! So happy you were able to celebrate with Baby D this weekend :) We celebrated with a Mother’s Day fun run with my Mom Saturday then lunch, and yesterday we went for a walk with my whole family :)

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Catherine @ foodiecology May 12, 2014 at 2:39 pm

I’m not sure why I’ve never come across your blog (considering I do the occasional MIMM & we read a lot of the same blogs) but I’m so glad I clicked today.
First, a sincere, heartfelt “Happy (belated) Mother’s Day” to you. I just read through your adoption and infertility stories, and I just wanted to thank you for your bravery in sharing something I can only imagine to be utterly heartbreaking.
I’m actually pregnant with my first, and while I’ve always pictured myself with a family, this pregnancy was a bit of a surprise. To be honest, it took me several weeks to accept and go from anger/shock to joy/gratitude. It’s stories like yours, of people who desperately want and deserve children but struggle with infertility, that made me realize how blessed I am. You’re right that we don’t always write the plans for our lives, and things happen for a reason (even if we don’t understand it at first).
Your son is beautiful, and I wish you all the best in your motherhood journey.

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Brittany May 19, 2014 at 4:25 pm

Thanks girl! I’m so glad you found me! I don’t know how we haven’t found each other before. You are incredibly blessed, and I’m glad you feel that way now! I’m excited to follow your journey, momma! xoxo

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Annette@FitnessPerks May 12, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Beautiful post!! <3

Being a mother is more than just having a child–we can be mothers to others in so many ways by our love, caring, service, and giving. You are amazing!

I love the willow tree figure. So pretty!

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Betsy May 12, 2014 at 3:18 pm

I’m so glad you were able to celebrate with your little one this mothers day! Thank you for remembering those hoping and praying to be mothers some day, I did feel forgotten yesterday but your post made me feel better.

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Brittany May 27, 2014 at 10:55 pm

I thought of you on Mother’s Day. I hate you felt forgotten, and I pray that your prayers are answered soon!

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Emily @ Glitz Glam Gluten-Free May 12, 2014 at 4:54 pm

Omigoodness, Happy Mother’s Day! Although I haven’t commented in quite some time, I’ve been following your journey and I’m so excited for you and your little Baby D! He is such a cutie, I love the pic of him with your Dad! You are so right about God’s plans, sometimes in the midst of the pain, it’s hard to see how we will ever come out the other side, but the beautiful baby in your arms is just proof that God is good!

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Brittany May 19, 2014 at 4:27 pm

Thank you girl!!! Oh girl.. don’t worry about not commenting– I’m so good a reading and not commenting. Life gets busy! God is so good, and I’m so glad that I can share my story and allow others to see how good He is! xoxo

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Amanda @ .running with spoons. May 12, 2014 at 5:02 pm

I’m so happy to hear that you had such a good Mother’s Day, love! Your family is just beautiful :) I spent the weekend up in the mountains with my momma and we had a special girls’ trip, just the two of us. Moms are just all sorts of amazing <3

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Jess May 12, 2014 at 6:24 pm

You so deserved a wonderful Mothers Day! Love the pic of your dad and baby d! I am sure you have many many more Mothers Days to come!

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Matt @ Runner Savvy May 12, 2014 at 8:05 pm

I’m glad you had a great day!

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Amy @ Run with Perseverance May 12, 2014 at 9:00 pm

Happy first Mother’s Day! Baby D is just a DOLL!!! That picture in the hat…oh my goodness. What sweet and thoughtful gifts, too.

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Giselle@myhealthyhappyhome May 13, 2014 at 12:08 am

So glad you had an amazing first Mother’s Day! I love those willow figures. My MIL has gotten us so many and they are scattered around our house in different places where I can see them. Love them!

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Cori @ olivetorun.com May 13, 2014 at 7:54 pm

Beautiful post. Happy [belated] Mothers Day to a woman that I have NO doubt in my mind is an amazing mother to that lucky little man.

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