Reflections on My First Mother’s Day

Wow…it seems so surreal to celebrate my first Mother’s Day!

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Mother’s Day was my least favorite day of the year for several years.  I felt forgotten.

This year, Luvy and Baby D made it super special.

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We unplugged all weekend and just relaxed.

Made a special breakfast on Saturday.

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Baby D got me a necklace with his birthstone on it.

Luvy got me roses and a “Child of My Heart” WillowTree figure.

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I love it because it was made especially for multicultural families!  How precious is that?

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My dad even came up this weekend to see us!

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I die over this pic of Baby D in my dad’s hat!

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Luvy instructed Baby D early that he may never forget a Mother’s Day.  I’m thinking that Baby D better take notes from his daddy on gift giving.  If he does, he will make one young lady a very nice husband one day…. but I don’t want to think about that!  ;)

For years, Mother’s Day was so painful.  There is no pain like wanting a child, yet being infertile.  You feel forgotten and it seems like everyone around you keeps having babies.

This was not lost on me this year.  Even though I have Baby D now, I am still very aware of the pain of infertility.

I think that mother’s deserve to be honored and celebrated…don’t get me wrong.  However, I don’t think we should alienate those women who do not or can not have children.

You never know who is suffering in silence like I did for so many years.

Just know that you are never forgotten.  God has a plan for your life.  Although I didn’t enjoy my infertility journey.  I know that God’s plan for my infertility was so that we could adopt Baby D.

For that, I’m thankful!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you mom’s and future mom’s out there! 

I hope you all have a Marvelous Monday friends!

Thanks to the gorgeous Katie for the link up!

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Comments

  1. says

    Awww congratulations, your smile is contagious! You look so truly happy and it is wonderful :) I celebrated from afar, as I sent my mum a movie to watch, and ordered her a cookie cake. We facetimed as she opened it, so that was nice to almost be there :) Hope you have a week that is just as special!

  2. says

    Thank you for this post. I don’t think people realize how painful Mother’s Day can be for those without children. I am past the point of it hurting, but it still bothers me when Gary & I are out on Mother’s Day and I hear waiters/waitresses at a restaurant or checkers at a grocery store wishing every woman they come across Happy Mother’s Day. Not every female over 20 has a child. Just weird to me.
    I am so glad Luvy & Baby D spoiled you…you totally deserve it! :)

    • says

      YES.. I don’t think the pain every completely goes away. I’m so glad that you are past the point of hurting every year. That is HUGE! Love you friend… and love your story.

  3. says

    Beautiful! I love your heart, that you shine light on the fact that so many women who want to be mamas go forgotten on Mother’s day. God does have a plan for their lives, and I’m so glad you followed the path He laid out for you, to make good of your infertility problems by giving Baby D a loving family and home.

  4. says

    What a great post! So happy you were able to celebrate with Baby D this weekend :) We celebrated with a Mother’s Day fun run with my Mom Saturday then lunch, and yesterday we went for a walk with my whole family :)

  5. says

    I’m not sure why I’ve never come across your blog (considering I do the occasional MIMM & we read a lot of the same blogs) but I’m so glad I clicked today.
    First, a sincere, heartfelt “Happy (belated) Mother’s Day” to you. I just read through your adoption and infertility stories, and I just wanted to thank you for your bravery in sharing something I can only imagine to be utterly heartbreaking.
    I’m actually pregnant with my first, and while I’ve always pictured myself with a family, this pregnancy was a bit of a surprise. To be honest, it took me several weeks to accept and go from anger/shock to joy/gratitude. It’s stories like yours, of people who desperately want and deserve children but struggle with infertility, that made me realize how blessed I am. You’re right that we don’t always write the plans for our lives, and things happen for a reason (even if we don’t understand it at first).
    Your son is beautiful, and I wish you all the best in your motherhood journey.

    • says

      Thanks girl! I’m so glad you found me! I don’t know how we haven’t found each other before. You are incredibly blessed, and I’m glad you feel that way now! I’m excited to follow your journey, momma! xoxo

  6. says

    Beautiful post!! <3

    Being a mother is more than just having a child–we can be mothers to others in so many ways by our love, caring, service, and giving. You are amazing!

    I love the willow tree figure. So pretty!

  7. Betsy says

    I’m so glad you were able to celebrate with your little one this mothers day! Thank you for remembering those hoping and praying to be mothers some day, I did feel forgotten yesterday but your post made me feel better.

  8. says

    Omigoodness, Happy Mother’s Day! Although I haven’t commented in quite some time, I’ve been following your journey and I’m so excited for you and your little Baby D! He is such a cutie, I love the pic of him with your Dad! You are so right about God’s plans, sometimes in the midst of the pain, it’s hard to see how we will ever come out the other side, but the beautiful baby in your arms is just proof that God is good!

    • says

      Thank you girl!!! Oh girl.. don’t worry about not commenting– I’m so good a reading and not commenting. Life gets busy! God is so good, and I’m so glad that I can share my story and allow others to see how good He is! xoxo

  9. says

    I’m so happy to hear that you had such a good Mother’s Day, love! Your family is just beautiful :) I spent the weekend up in the mountains with my momma and we had a special girls’ trip, just the two of us. Moms are just all sorts of amazing <3

  10. says

    You so deserved a wonderful Mothers Day! Love the pic of your dad and baby d! I am sure you have many many more Mothers Days to come!

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