I know I promised this post to you all last week on being intentional. That was before sickness hit my house and the blog was the first to go!
In my Let’s Catch Up post, I was telling you all that I’m trying to keep my phone, iPad, computer, and technology off and away from my kids during the day. I’ll be honest, this is easier said than done. I mean, Miles from Tomorrowland has solved lots of tantrums around here. However, I don’t want my children dependent on TV or technology for “fun” or to keep my kids entertained while I get crap done.
As a primarily stay at home mom, it is easy for me to get so busy with home stuff or blogging/work stuff that I end up having no quality time with the kids. I’ve decided to just treat my kids like my “job”. If I were to be honest, I wasted lots of time when I first started staying home.
I tried to do it all. Laundry, cleaning, errands, blogging, etc. I was miserable and so were my kids. Honestly, “getting stuff done” just isn’t worth it. My kids are only little once.
(The paci is now bye-bye. Woo-hoo!)
Running myself ragged trying to get everything done didn’t work for me. I started thinking about what I would want someone to do if they were keeping my kids. I would want them playing with them, loving on them, and interacting with them. Certainly not what I was doing. I was trying to keep my house spick and span clean while doing social media, blogging, emails, “playing with the kids”, making meals, and running errands. No wonder we were all so cranky!
I was totally convicted of this one day when I was super frustrated with Baby Delight for unfolding the load of laundry I had spent 30 minutes folding. He was trying to “help”. Really, he was. Then, he kept trying to climb in my lap while refolding said pile of laundry. I mean, did he not see what I was doing?!? No, of course not. He’s 2.5 and all he wanted was his mommy to play with him.
That’s when hormones and guilt got the best of me and…. I cried. Poor kid, he was so confused why mommy was frustrated and then started hugging him and crying. I’m pretty sure before he is 5, he will understand that women are complex human beings (that may or may not cry all the time). 😉
So, I have begun to treat my kids as my “job”. Sure, there are times when I have to turn on a Miles from Tomorrowland and get something done. I am human and far from perfect. However, I am trying to be more intentional about my time with my kids.
For me, this means social media is off, phone is stored, and the TV is off. That holds me and them accountable, because Baby Delight now knows how to use the remote control. He is too smart for his own good!
I just don’t want these sweet, precious years before school, sports/ extracurricular stuff, and they get too big for me go by without me noticing and being “busy”.
How do you stay intentional with your kids or just in general?